The picture of a dom opening a door for a sub seems wrong and out of place on the surface. Shouldn't the sub be the one opening the door? Or the image of the master who brings flowers home to his slave, again presenting an image that seems subtly wrong to many. These two images do have something in common though, and a strength and correctness within them to helping the relationships grow and thrive. While not something that every sub wants, and certainly very few if you ask them what they seek from their service, romance is a powerful tool, both for taming, and keeping a sub.
Romance is necessary to the health of a relationship, coming from both dom and sub. It brings the lift, and smile into life and, if even for a brief moment, causes you to forget the world. While many BDSM practioners seek a bit more emotional distance, on the surface, it is the relationships where the emotional distance under the surface is minimized which are the strongest. One way to do that is to put a little romance into your life.
I'm not trying to say that it should be omnipresent in the bond, especially because it's best when it's least expected. In my experience the relationships I've had, and seen, it is the ones which are treated first and foremost as relationships (even (perhaps more importantly!) if the BDSM is 24/7 (aka lifestyle)) which are the most successful and lasting.
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